I want you to ask yourself – truthfully – how many times over the last week have you thought things like:
- I wish I were more like her.
- If only I had the energy and motivation she has.
- She is such a super mom. Why can’t I get my act together?
- Her husband is so helpful. I wish mine did a bit more around here.
- I bet she has a structure and plan for everything.
- She has it all: great kids, a loving husband, takes care of everything and even works a job. How does she do it all so well?
If so, you’re certainly not alone. We’re all tempted on a daily basis, especially in the days of social media.
Comparison is the thief of joy. We’ve all heard it but have you thoughtfully considered it?
Over the last few weeks, I’ve been hearing several of these comments and many have been directed toward me. I’ve been perplexed by this. I like to think that I’m pretty open and honest about life on social media particularly. Not even for one day do I think I have it all together. As a matter of fact, all of the photos in this post are from this morning.
My kids are out of school and have had longer electronic time than I generally allow (because I was talking to an Apple support person for nearly 3 – yes THREE – hours trying to fix my non-working iMac). The house
was still is a mess. I had a difficult personal situation arise that I’m still working through emotionally. Blah. Yep. That’s how I currently feel at the very moment I write this.
I’m not mentioning all of this to have a pity party. I just need to reaffirm you beautiful ladies that we are all on this journey together. None of us, I repeat, NOT ONE of us has it all together. And if you think you do, you may want to follow someone other than me because I will not meet your standards. I may have certain aspects of life going well for me at different moments but I’m quite certain you do as well.
When you begin to feel someone ELSE has it all together, I want you to ask yourself four questions:
Is it possible that there are not so amazing or “perfect” things going on behind the scenes in this other woman’s life? *hint* Not only is it possible, it’s most likely true.
Is wishing I were more like this woman going to solve the problems in front of me?
Is wallowing in the unfairness of it all going to help me feel more positive?
And practically speaking…What CAN I do to move closer to my goals? What one baby step can I take? What habit can I establish that, when repeated, would help me to eventually reach that endpoint I dream of?
Well… I guess that’s technically more than four but you get the picture.
There I go again, referring to our mindsets. I hope you’re not getting tired of hearing me talk about this but ladies, a healthy mindset is instrumental to our creating real, lasting change! Have you observed yours lately? I’ve been working on something really exciting that will help you in this area if you have the desire to be helped. Make sure you are on my email list and pay attention as details will be coming soon!
In the meantime, let’s continue this conversation over in the Wellness with Terra Community on Facebook. I would love to chat with you there!
Until next time…
P.S. One more thought. When all is said and done, remember that Jesus tells us in John 16:33, “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world, you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world” (Italics mine).