One of my absolute favorite speaking topics and ways of helping women like you, is by addressing habits. How do you create and establish healthy habits while replacing bad ones? Did you know there is a LOT of power in habits?
At the same time, having planned for all the habits in the world won’t benefit you if your mind is not in the right place. What do I mean by that?
Let me give an example. Say that Jane Doe has decided she wants to get in the habit of going to the gym three days per week. Chances may even be high that she’s made this decision at the beginning of the New Year. She starts well and succeeds in her goal for about two weeks. Then one day, Jane has a bad day at work and the last thing she wants to do it go to the gym. All she wants to do is go home, crawl into her pajamas, get the kids in bed and soak in some Netflix. When it’s time for her to go to the gym again later that week, she remembers how much easier that night of Netflix seemed and quickly falls off the gym train. Little did she know, that time at the gym could have dramatically improved her mood and continued to build her confidence that “things could be different this time.” Instead, now she’s left feeling like she doesn’t know why she even tries to get healthy because she can never do anything right anyway. And while she’s struggling with those feelings of failure, she eats her sorrows away with a sleeve of cookies further fueling her guilt and shame. How could things be different?
No one tells you that in order to change your habits, you must first understand (and then change) your mindset!
Mindset is defined as “a [fixed] mental attitude or disposition that predetermines a person’s responses to and interpretations of situations.”
What do mindset and habits have to do with our health, fitness level, well-being and overall success in life? The answer is quite simple… EVERYTHING.
Here’s something to really think about:
- What would you attempt if you knew anything was possible?
- What would you attempt if you knew you would succeed?
- What if the sky really was the limit?
Did something immediately pop into your mind? Write it down. Now. You have a dream.
How many times have you told yourself…
- Why should I have dreams when they probably won’t come true anyway?
- How can I set goals for the future when I can’t even achieve goals today?
- I don’t have the time. My children are a full-time job.
- I don’t have the money. Change is too expensive.
- I believe others can change, but not me. I’ve never succeeded.
You know what? I’m going to believe in you until YOU believe in you. For real. Sometimes we need someone on the outside to point out what is already in us that we are just not seeing yet. Just the other day, a friend of mine was talking about what most people think of when they think of me. The overwhelming response that I tend to get when I’ve asked people this question is “energy.” They view me as someone who has a lot of energy. However, this particular friend said that while she sees energy as well, the first thing she thinks of when she thinks of me is “humility.”
Now, I hate to even post this because it seems that by doing so, I’m displaying the opposite of humility. However, the coolest thing about her comment is that characteristic is specifically something that I’ve been praying about and even affirming myself with. It’s a trait that I strongly desire to be true of me. Having her point it out, truly made me grateful that maybe, just maybe, I AM growing in that area.
What about you? Do you have any areas of mindset, thoughts or beliefs that hold you back from making lasting change? How do you talk to yourself? Is it gentle like a friend or hateful like an evil dictator? Show yourself some love and grace today. Want to chat about it with other like-minded women? Hop on over and join the Wellness with Terra Community on Facebook today.
Until next time…